Ever heard someone tell you "Just get over it"? Often this is said through someone trying to help and encourage. However it is a very misused and ill-timed phrase. Spoken without wisdom can steal the emotional experience of shattered expectations needed to process what has happened that may have not only deeply affected you, but brings out the unresolved pain and hurt from the past. Proverbs 25:11

The Scriptural version says to overcome rather than get over it(1 John 5:1-5). I may never get over it and especially as fast as others prefer. But I can overcome the obstacles and still succeed with all the emotions besides only anger. To grieve is to heal and there is rarely if ever any anger without underlying grief.

Wasn't the message of the cross that no matter how much pain might be inflicted that we by God's grace may still by obediemce learn to continue to make righteous decisions in which we're being led? Hebrews 5:7-14

It seems we spend a great deal of our lives looking for the right answers to the wrong questions. That is why so many have to be right and kill many relationships around them proving that fact.

All questions can be good if not bound to finding the answer to that specific question. It could be at times of confusion that is the only way we know how to communicate and we demand the answer. If it is the wrong question, you are free to let the question be a step on the path to the right one and that answer will make you rejoice even if the circumstances haven't changed.

The storms in our life often reveal the surface questions that we have in the 1st step of the conviction process. Once we see that the "perfect storm" might be our Father's way of loving us out of our immaturity(Hebrews 12). Or, simply perfecting us so that we will walk the talk, just talk, not talk, walk, or not. It's however we're being led and it often changes. Yet, the leading remains true to the Word.

As Randy Draughon of www.midtownfellowship.org often paraphrases John 16:33 "Cheer up. We're worse than we think we are".