The moral law searches for the wound. The ceremonial law forshadows the remedy. Christ is the end of both. Romans 10:4 The responsibility is no longer on me. Gentleness, not meanness, is the path to resolve my inner conflict removing my fear of being lost, of bad news, and overbearing responsibility. Now justified by the End. Isaiah 53:11-12  

A gentle bad ass rather than a mean coward.