A story that leads to an application rather than another story.
The question”What do you think?” begins the process of empowering leadership in a person when he has a question.
To approach someone with tact is to approach with wisdom and counsel. Often the need to approach is due to decisions by other parties made in haste out of emotions. This tactical approach with tact can inquire without reproach in order to understand how to bring order out of the resulting chaos.
I wrote earlier about this in the blog Approach Toward Another’s Reproach.
This place where we most live is a community of isolated rather than tribal. Rallying the isolated is driven by fear, suspicion, and hatred. The tribal or true community isolates the innate need to be part of something and repairs and heals by unity.
We could learn from a bear or Chicago with their cubs that refathering is needed to learn to be a follower who leads first out of isolation, and into protective, yet creative community.
We try to remain in isolation by our questions such as “What do I do?”
The isolated tends to set-up an argument led by the thought “Yeah, but” that is expressed after given advice. Argumentative thoughts expressed as “Yeah, but” seek relief rather than healing in conflict. Concrete answers to the questions make you feel bad in order to feel yourself, maybe for the first time.
Questions, if seen as steps rather than a path to an answer, allow sight to hear “This is what I know” so I can hear what to do next expressed as “I see.”
George of the Jungle, a friend to you and me, says don’t club the cub but follow it out of the park and into drive.
Then see who you feel by what you formerly felt by getting your but in shape. Romans 3:21
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet- unless I’ve cut off my nose to spite my face through self-hatred. The fragrance of a rose reminds me who knows what matters no matter what names by which I call myself. Self-hatred is never born out of love, but out of pride, and pride doesn’t understand that emotion is stronger than thought and I thought. The emotion of self-hatred is anger. This anger causes huge mood swings that I begin to judge as a mental problem rather than an attitude problem.