Fall

I was meandering through my front yard today in this second day of Fall and saw something fall about 25 feet from one of the trees into the creek with a thump. It looked like a squirrel that landed on its back though I had never seen that happen before. I went over in order to see up close and there was a squirrel on its feet which ran back up the tree as it saw me. I thought "That is nuts!" and then I realized it was just a squirrel in the fall.

Relationship Building

The success in relationship building tends to be thought of as "scouting out" someone, watching how he or she reacts or has reacted to others, or by their habits and disciplines. While this helps, it is rarely how a lasting meaningful relationship is built, especially one that we can influence and not be distracted by opinion. What is important to recognize are the patterns one has of interaction with and reaction towards us specifically. While these patterns may appear similar to past and current relationships that the other has, our actions, not reactions, are what begin to develop the relationship in a much deeper and more influential way. 

Awe

Exausted human speech.

Vision

Vision exists when promise outweighs threat by my speech yielding to my memory rather than my memory yielding to my speech.

Solitude

Anti-social security

Guidance

The teaching of the inner meaning that is not so apparent in translation of an action or words.

Perfectionism

One of the chief causes of blindness to beauty.

Mentoring

Converting the interior blueprints of a person into a finished product.

Intimacy

Tuning in, toning down, and lightening up.

Death by Lecture

We are to mentor, not intimidate. Lead rather than demand blind obedience from public and private shaming.  Death by lecture is a parent trap that mames the parent or authority. Authoritative tenderness is the answer. Inform to reform. Stand and be the argument rather than argue endlessly into infinity with duplicity of empty words.

Strong-arm tactics by shaming show the lack of persuasive power. Persuasion leads a person to hear a voice other than the voice of the persuader. Spirit awakening by rediscovering the voice-spirit in another is what I call voice recognition that actives heart touch.

A heart touched rather than lectured is a treasure indeed.

Embedded

How often we complain and argue about things that are near unchangeable. These are things embedded in our culture, the culture of our church, or institutions where we work. Even family traditions could be added to the list. Try to change them and you'll face the same challenge you face when trying to change something about yourself. It's hard to change something alone. We have all heard someone say "You've made you bed, now lie in it". Unfortunately, the bed often feels too short to be able to rest. Isaiah 28:20

My anxiety over the necessary change to survive, the guilt from not reaching my potential, and the anxiety of learning new ways to think and behave are the underlying issues.

It's impossible to handle and to heal from these issues without the help of others because the process of unlearning my old ways creates even more anxiety.

Unlearning isn't done by imitation of others. When they are out of the picture I'll just revert to my former ways and be on my own again. Judges 2:18,19

Inviting others in to help redefine my way of thinking according to my own personality and relationships through trial and error leads me to transformational change. 2 Corinthians 3:16-18

I learn to reach out in order to hold out through awareness rather than fairness. Philippians 2:14-18

Grief

When we get mad or frustrated and these emotions don't lead us to grieving what happened, the transforming power that is given to us is forfeited. To grieve is to be a loved one or the least of these and the capacity to receive is reopened.

Commitment

The thrill of freedom. Freedom allows commitment and commitment is an exercise of the will.