Listening both ways before crossing a question.
Developing clean energy for the energy boom coming in the next generation.
Raising the bar instead of the drink. Moving from toasted to bread so you won't get eaten alive.
Making an ash of myself where there is smoke, but no fire.
Stoned on weakness.
The question"What do you think?" begins the process of empowering leadership in a person when he has a question.
To approach someone with tact is to approach with wisdom and counsel. Often the need to approach is due to decisions by other parties made in haste out of emotions. This tactical approach with tact can inquire without reproach in order to understand how to bring order out of the resulting chaos. I wrote earlier about this in the blog Approach Toward Another's Reproach.
This place where we most live is a community of isolated rather than tribal. Rallying the isolated is driven by fear, suspicion, anger, or hatred. The tribal or true community isolates the innate need to be part of something and repairs and heals by unity. We could learn from a bear or Chicago with their cubs that refathering is needed to learn to be a follower who leads first out of isolation, and into protective, yet creative community.
We try to remain in isolation by our questions such as "What do I do?" The isolated tends to set-up an argument led by the thought "Yeah, but" that is expressed after given advice. Argumentative thoughts expressed as "Yeah, but" seek relief rather than healing in conflict. Concrete answers to the questions make you feel bad in order to feel yourself, maybe for the first time.
Questions, if seen as steps rather than a path to an answer, allow sight to hear "This is what I know" so I can hear what to do next expressed as "I see."
George of the Jungle, a friend to you and me, says don't club the cub but follow it out of the park and into drive.
Then see who you feel by what you formerly felt by getting your but in shape. Romans 3:21
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet- unless I've cut off my nose to spite my face through self-hatred. The fragrance of a rose reminds me who knows what matters no matter what names by which I call myself. Self-hatred is never born out of love, but out of pride, and pride doesn't understand that emotion is stronger than thought and I thought. The emotion of self-hatred is anger. This anger causes huge mood swings that I begin to judge as a mental problem rather than an attitude problem.
A bud wiser. Drink it in.
Points make a game but moments make a story of living encounters. A living encounter can reach a point, but a point can't reach a living encounter. Points can be made and measured therefore don't require trust and love which can't be measured or made, only entered. A moment is the still door into life's movement.
We so often say the wrong thing because we have this compulsion to speak when simply loving is needed. True value is realized not so much through speaking but in loving. Right or timely words do register in the heart but are most powerfully registered when love leads. Otherwise what is said is often received as more internal noise to be tuned out or is tuned out without even intentionally doing so. I call this shutting down even when words are present. Misinterpretation is intense at this point causing much unnecessary anxiety and conflict. Virtually no healing is possible though the opportunity was present. How often value is misplaced because silence is feared rather than used to remove fear that makes healng possible.
I met recently with someone who was described by an important government official as a silent warrior, yet I've never heard him without words. We must fight silently at times to be efficient in the kill, but must first love silently to give life to the will.
Amour and no less.
I have a question before I have a dream.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIiDlksURsk My daughters Sarah and Whitney. Whitney is trying to get Sarah to say Sarah.