Making an ash of myself where there is smoke, but no fire.
Stoned on weakness.
The question"What do you think?" begins the process of empowering leadership in a person when he has a question.
To approach someone with tact is to approach with wisdom and counsel. Often the need to approach is due to decisions by other parties made in haste out of emotions. This tactical approach with tact can inquire without reproach in order to understand how to bring order out of the resulting chaos. I wrote earlier about this in the blog Approach Toward Another's Reproach.